What makes a friend a friend?

Random Challenge

*** What does friendship mean to you?? List your top 5-10 character traits/qualities that you look for in a potential FRIEND ... and why you feel these are important. ***

from BonnieRose!


What makes a friend a friend? That's a very deep subject...... one that I struggle with. I do not trust easily (anymore).

A friend - if a true friend - is one that you Trust no matter what. This is a tall order. Whether someone means to or not - they usually break your trust. Whether it's telling someone else something you have told them, something you have done or shared your feelings with another - trust is broken. There are several other ways a friend can break your trust. This does not mean I am without fault. Breaking trust can be as simple as dising a friend for lunch because you have other things MORE IMPORTANT to do - thus breaking that friend's trust you would always be there for them. That would be the top quality - TRUST! Not easy.

Honesty - a friend is one who could tell you that hair cut is not working, the clothes you just put on are not jiving, the perfume you have on is rank and the purse you have is clashing with the shoes. That's a true friend. One that can tell you things about yourself no one else can.

Laughter - a friend is someone who has to make you laugh when you are down, laugh with you when you can't laugh at yourself (like when you fall out at the store after slipping in a puddle when you were trying to look all cool like walking along chatting with your friend.) A true friend will make you laugh when the world looks like it is falling down around you. Most importantly - a friend is one that laughs at things you too find funny that the rest of the world just sits and stares at.

Sponaniety - a friend must be spontaneous. They must be willing to do something on the spur of the moment with you. Whether that's a Friday matinee, coffee at 0300, glass of wine after dinner or a run in the middle of the afternoon just because a "friendship moment" is needed. The willingness to get together and just "TALK" is important.

Common interests - a friend needs to have the same interests as you do. A friend of yours that does not - will never jive. You don't have to match exactly - but a friend you have no common interest with will soon perish do to lack of "things to do, talk about or laugh about."

These are the traits I look for in a friend. Most importantly though - TRUST.

Okay - OFF TO WORK OUT..... wish me luck - just not in the mood to go work out.
(post note - a friend is one that will pull you out of bed, drag you to your work out and make you work out - even if you are screaming and kicking. A true friend will not let you skip out on your work out! LOL!!!)